Life Lessons In Love

Another heart break strikes again, followed by some more learning curves. I’m learning along the way that we really can learn something new from everyone we meet in our lives. Through the journey, I’ve learnt more about myself. I can proudly reflect on how far I’ve come and how my mistakes from the past and new boundaries in the present.

I used to stick around in a relationship for longer than I should have. It has been the fear of being alone, and the hopes of what I so easily put up on a pedestal for our future were crashing down in front of me. I do find it hard to let go because of what I hold on it in that person. This most recent breakup has taught me how strong I am, and how trusting my intuition really saves me from further heartbreak. I avoided sliding down a rabbit hole that I know all too well from the past. And I’m damn proud of myself! This time, I chose my own sanity, happiness and trusted myself in making the right decision for me. It wasn’t an easy decision to make, but for the long run I knew it would save me further pain.

We hold onto what we had created in our minds about the person and the relationship’s future. But, if they wanted to be in my life; they would have. It hasn’t been easy, and I’ve made a concerted effort to change the narrative in my mind — both about the individual and the thoughts running through my own head. The what ifs don’t help and the future I thought was so right is no longer a possibility.

I now choose to no longer hold places in my life for the people who don’t make an effort, who don’t show up and who make me feel unwanted, unseen and unheard. I know what kind of love I want, and I know that I will find it. I’m learning that the best way to move forward is to focus on the now and the present moment. It’s all we really have, and I’m beyond grateful for everything and everyone that I have in my life. I have now, and I’m going to make sure I make the most of it.

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Bold Brunette

Almost everything can be an adventure • Liver transplant recipient• Learning & growing every day.